Understanding and guiding the children's behavior require not only knowledge of their growth and development but also the ability to understand each child's behavior.
Understanding and guiding the children's behavior require not only knowledge of their growth and development but also the ability to understand each child's behavior. As a parent, you need to learn more about your role in guiding your children. But an important thing to remember when guiding them is to stay in the background. Do not interrupt a child's activity unless you can add knowledge or safety.
Never do for the children what they can do for themselves. This will help them develop independence and self-confidence. Self-control is the long term guidance. That is, the children should learn to direct their own behavior without outside control.
Guidance involves actions used by an adult to help children develop socially acceptable behavior. They may include the following:
1. Use simple language and speak in a relaxed tone of voice. To communicate clearly with children, use simple language that they can understand. This is very important because children have limited vocabularies. Consider the ages of children. Adjust your vocabulary to fit their ages. Also, speak in a calm and relaxed tone of voice. When you raise your voice, they will also raise their voices.
2. Be firm and consistent. You need to be firm when disciplining children. But, at the same time, speak in a quiet voice. Some children are very demanding. They sometimes ask for things that are impossible. They may cry or show temper tantrums. You must not allow this behavior to persist. Ion this case, be firm. If you give in, the child will likely use the same method again when he wants his own way. Effective discipline requires firmness.
Children are also good at testing adults if they feel that the latter are not firm in disciplining. They want to find out what will happen. If they continue to repeat their wrongdoings. Therefore, discipline should be given consistently.
3. Be positive. Guide the children by telling them what to do instead of what not to do.
Positive: Please walk. Lower your voice.
Negative: Do not run. Don't scream.
4. Encourage independence and cooperation. Give the children the least amount of help. This will give them opportunities to learn independence. For example, encourage them to dress, feed themselves, or share responsibility for keeping the house clean and orderly. Children become independent if given the opportunity.
At home, children are usually dependent because they have an adult or a sibling to attend to their needs. Change this behavior by encouraging them to become independent.
5. Intervene only when necessary. Allow the children to explore on their own. Interrupt only when you can add to their knowledge or safety. For example, if a child is not careful in climbing a monkey bar, remind him. Make clear the danger of falling. Intervene also for health purposes. Remind children to dress properly in different weather conditions and encourage them to cover their mouths when they cough.
6. Consider their feelings. Children need to recognize, understand, and express their feelings. It is your responsibility to help them understand their feelings. Modeling is the best way to help children. For example, if a child is crying, hug him. By doing this, the child will learn that crying can be mended with a hug.
Children also need to learn how to handle mistakes. When a child breaks a vase, do not overreact. Show the child how to handle the mistake, for them to learn not to fear mistakes. Remind the child to be careful and show him how to clean the mess.