Parenting Issues: The Problematic Children
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Parenting Issues: The Problematic Children

Age 12 is a crucial age for a child to be separated from home and parents. Psychologists describe this stage as the development of identity. Sending youngsters abroad for foreign studies may sound like an irresistible idea for any family, particularly if it is a bonus package included with your husband's contract.
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"My husband's job included among his benefits free foreign schooling for all our children. So at age 12, one by one, our three daughters and two sons left home to study in Europe. We visited them at least twice a year; they came home for the Christmas holidays. Things went smoothly until they reached adolescence. One by one, each got himself into some kind of problem - two into drugs, one an unwanted pregnancy, another, dropping out of school. My husband and I are very busy here at home with our numerous commitments. Where have we gone wrong? We thought all the time that we were giving our kids the best. Is it too late for us to rehabilitate them?"

No, it is never too late to rehabilitate your kids as long as you start getting help for them and your whole family. You need professional help.

Sending youngsters abroad for foreign studies may sound like an irresistible idea for any family, particularly if it is a bonus package included with your husband's contract.

Unfortunately, age 12 is a crucial age for a child to be separated from home and parents. Psychologists describe this stage as the development of identity - who am I? What do I believe? What do I want in life? How can I reach my goals?

This is the age when the youngster is most vulnerable to influences from his peers, from his environment, and from persons around him. Living abroad has exposed your kids to the culture of the country where they were suddenly immersed. A typical adolescent will absorb everything like a sponge in order to "belong."

Experimenting with drugs and sex, and losing interest in studies, could have been imbibed from their associates and peers. Ten thousand miles is too distant to monitor what each of your youngsters thought and did. Without parental presence and supervision, your kids have had to look to others for direction.

Some confusion and turmoil are a normal part of an adolescent's search for identity. The mishaps that your youngsters have fallen into are examples. They know most of the time that they had important decisions to make. Unfortunately, they often found themselves unable to choose the correct and sensible ones. At this point, the accessibility of their parents could have been of utmost value in helping them arrive at prudent judgments.

Although it is painful to face the present circumstances your youngsters are in, this kind of crisis could just be a transitory phase of their lives. Like many others in life, their uncertainties may resolve themselves over time with your guidance and understanding.

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Comments (3)

Great points made for problematic teens. Well composed. Promoted.

Another great article for sensitive topic. Well done.

Lovely. I just love this article.

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