Toilet Training: Late Bloomer Kids in Bladder and Bowel Control
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Toilet Training: Late Bloomer Kids in Bladder and Bowel Control

A child who is ready physically to be toilet trained may need just a little regularity and psychological motivation. Preschool may be your answer. Some preschools will take children who could use the toilet but won't, and will work with them for a trial period, especially if the child really wants to attend.

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Many 3- and 4- year-olds aren't yet toilet trained - and it's not uncommon for 6- and 7-year-olds to get so involved in activities that they can't make it to the toilet in time. At times of stress or excitement, school-aged children sometimes have accidents. Your child may be a late bloomer when it comes to bladder and bowel control.

A child who is ready physically to be toilet trained may need just a little regularity and psychological motivation. Preschool may be your answer. Some preschools will take children who could use the toilet but won't, and will work with them for a trial period, especially if the child really wants to attend. The teacher usually asks Mom to send a number of changes of clothing. When an accident occurs, the teacher lets a child wash himself or herself and the dirty underwear. With a teacher who encourages a child with an "I can" attitude, combined with peer pressure and the desire to attend preschool, it usually doesn't take a child long to train himself.

But if you're not lucky enough to find such a teacher, and if your son's resistance is basically a struggle for power, then you're going to have to transfer the responsibility for toileting behavior back on his shoulders. Tell him something like this: "You know that big people urinate and have bowel movements in the toilet. Mommy has been pushing you to use the toilet. But that's not really Mommy's responsibility. It's your responsibility to decide when you want to use the toilet. During the day you can choose whether or not you would like to wear a diaper or underpants. But if you soil them, you will need to clean yourself up. I will help you if you ask me. If you choose to stay in dirty diapers, or if you don't clean a bowel movement off your bottom, it could make your skin hurt. That is one of the consequences of not using the toilet. Also, other people don't like to smell dirty diapers, so your friends may not want to play with you if you smell - or they might tease you. I might even ask you to go into another room if the smell bothers me."

I know this is a whoop of a speech for a preschooler. You will have to say it over and over. And it's going to be very hard for you not to be constantly reminding your son. Instead, when he's playing you might say something like "When you're having so much fun, I know it's sometimes hard to remember to use the toilet, so if you want me to remind you, just let me know."

When he has an accident, you're going to have to be very calm and remind him that he had the choice. He could have either gone in the toilet and had the fun of flushing it, or he could have gone in his pants and cleaned himself up.

Eventually, age and peer pressure are going to win out - and your son/daughter will decide that the toilet was a great invention.

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Comments (3)

Guess I was lucky. My daughter was self-trained by age two.

Its the first thing i taught my kids, foe less hassles when we stroll outside home.

I'll reserve these tips for my grandchildren. Thanks.

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